The Story
Two therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.
Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships rightâavoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they âfound themselvesâ first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up wonât fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last?
It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which weâre still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didnât truly wake up until he was pushing 40.Â
In Itâs Not Me, Itâs You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond.
The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. Itâs more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots donât grow from wishful thinkingâthey grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding.
Itâs Not Me, Itâs You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.
About the Author
John Kim blogs as The Angry Therapist. He practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients, frowned upon in the clinical world, and continues to look for new and unconventional ways to help people.
He created the Catalyst Life Coaching Course, an online life coaching certification program, and recently John started a new platform called SHFT, an app that gives people support in their pocket when they need it and the chance to become a life coach themselves.Â
John Kim lives in Los Angeles where he makes videos on his phone, CrossFits, and rides his motorcycle to coffee shops to do sessions.
Description
Two therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.
Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships rightâavoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they âfound themselvesâ first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up wonât fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last?
It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which weâre still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didnât truly wake up until he was pushing 40.Â
In Itâs Not Me, Itâs You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond.
The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. Itâs more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots donât grow from wishful thinkingâthey grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding.
Itâs Not Me, Itâs You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.
About the Author
John Kim blogs as The Angry Therapist. He practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients, frowned upon in the clinical world, and continues to look for new and unconventional ways to help people.
He created the Catalyst Life Coaching Course, an online life coaching certification program, and recently John started a new platform called SHFT, an app that gives people support in their pocket when they need it and the chance to become a life coach themselves.Â
John Kim lives in Los Angeles where he makes videos on his phone, CrossFits, and rides his motorcycle to coffee shops to do sessions.
